Comments for Our Red Thread to China http://redthread.wordpress.com My wife's and my journey to our daughter Fri, 18 Aug 2006 19:49:31 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 Comment on About by pablo http://redthread.wordpress.com/about/#comment-361 pablo Fri, 18 Aug 2006 19:49:31 +0000 /about/#comment-361 An excellent resource to learn chinese is available as free mp3 downloads at http://www.chinesepod.com Best of luck and I'm interested to hear how this progresses. Take care. An excellent resource to learn chinese is available as free mp3 downloads at http://www.chinesepod.com

Best of luck and I’m interested to hear how this progresses.

Take care.

]]> Comment on Greetings by Eric http://redthread.wordpress.com/2006/06/19/greetings/#comment-360 Eric Fri, 18 Aug 2006 17:56:05 +0000 https://redthread.wordpress.com/2006/06/19/greetings/#comment-360 Rich, Sorry I haven't answered for a while. Work's been keeping me more than busy. Good luck with the future adoption. I know that with CCAI being based in CO, they have a great community of adoptive families out there. Eric Rich,

Sorry I haven’t answered for a while. Work’s been keeping me more than busy.

Good luck with the future adoption. I know that with CCAI being based in CO, they have a great community of adoptive families out there.

Eric

]]> Comment on About by Eric http://redthread.wordpress.com/about/#comment-359 Eric Fri, 18 Aug 2006 17:53:47 +0000 /about/#comment-359 Peter, Thanks for stopping by. If you look at some of my postings about the book <i>Wanting a Daughter, Needing a Son</i>, some of them indirectly address why so many Chinese girls are available for adoption. It does seem to be poorer and rural families, but they seem to decide on this course because of government pressure to maintain a small family size. Anyway, as you pointed out, that would be better talking about in another posting. And don't I need some of those? So far it is unlikely that she will ever have contact with her birth family. China requires the parents to abandon the child before it can be adopted, but abandoning children is illegal there. So birth parents can't really say, "I want to continue a relationship with my child." That said, I would imagine that DNA and other technologies will soon advance to the point that she will able to reunite with her birth parents, and I think that would be great. No, unfortunately Jackie and I barely speak English. We are shopping around right now for Mandarin classes, and I plan to continue trying to learn the language myself. And of course, we'll make sure our daughter learns her birth language also. Hmm. I better get back on schedule for posting.... Eric Peter,

Thanks for stopping by.

If you look at some of my postings about the book Wanting a Daughter, Needing a Son, some of them indirectly address why so many Chinese girls are available for adoption.

It does seem to be poorer and rural families, but they seem to decide on this course because of government pressure to maintain a small family size.

Anyway, as you pointed out, that would be better talking about in another posting. And don’t I need some of those?

So far it is unlikely that she will ever have contact with her birth family. China requires the parents to abandon the child before it can be adopted, but abandoning children is illegal there. So birth parents can’t really say, “I want to continue a relationship with my child.”

That said, I would imagine that DNA and other technologies will soon advance to the point that she will able to reunite with her birth parents, and I think that would be great.

No, unfortunately Jackie and I barely speak English. We are shopping around right now for Mandarin classes, and I plan to continue trying to learn the language myself. And of course, we’ll make sure our daughter learns her birth language also.

Hmm. I better get back on schedule for posting….

Eric

]]> Comment on About by peter http://redthread.wordpress.com/about/#comment-357 peter Fri, 18 Aug 2006 09:04:51 +0000 /about/#comment-357 I really respect you and Jackie's decision to adopt a Chinese girl. This is a very interesting situation for a couple to be in and I have a few thoughts about it: I assume the pool of Chinese children up for international adoptions mostly consists of poor Chinese families who willingly give their child up so that the child will grow up with more opportunities. Could you address this concern in a future post? Also, I am interested in whether or not the girl's parents will still be in contact with her or ever have the chance of reuniting if only for emotional fulfillment. As a student of the Chinese language, I am curious if you and Jackie speak Chinese or plan to have the girl learn Chinese. If not, I would strongly consider options to do so. I really respect you and Jackie’s decision to adopt a Chinese girl. This is a very interesting situation for a couple to be in and I have a few thoughts about it:

I assume the pool of Chinese children up for international adoptions mostly consists of poor Chinese families who willingly give their child up so that the child will grow up with more opportunities. Could you address this concern in a future post?

Also, I am interested in whether or not the girl’s parents will still be in contact with her or ever have the chance of reuniting if only for emotional fulfillment.

As a student of the Chinese language, I am curious if you and Jackie speak Chinese or plan to have the girl learn Chinese. If not, I would strongly consider options to do so.

]]> Comment on Orientation by Moose http://redthread.wordpress.com/2006/05/13/12/#comment-177 Moose Fri, 21 Jul 2006 19:19:09 +0000 https://redthread.wordpress.com/2006/05/13/12/#comment-177 What a cute cat! ;) What a cute cat! ;)

]]> Comment on Greetings by Rich http://redthread.wordpress.com/2006/06/19/greetings/#comment-136 Rich Fri, 14 Jul 2006 04:53:25 +0000 https://redthread.wordpress.com/2006/06/19/greetings/#comment-136 Yes. My wife and I have been thinking about it for a few years. Had no success with the local agency here in Colorado (I think they prefer childless couples or foster parents). I heard good things about CCAI through a coworker. So, as soon as we get enough money together we'll start the process. Yes. My wife and I have been thinking about it for a few years. Had no success with the local agency here in Colorado (I think they prefer childless couples or foster parents). I heard good things about CCAI through a coworker. So, as soon as we get enough money together we’ll start the process.

]]> Comment on Greetings by Eric http://redthread.wordpress.com/2006/06/19/greetings/#comment-117 Eric Sat, 08 Jul 2006 22:15:58 +0000 https://redthread.wordpress.com/2006/06/19/greetings/#comment-117 Thanks, Rich, glad to have the company. Did you all end up deciding to adopt? Thanks, Rich, glad to have the company.

Did you all end up deciding to adopt?

]]> Comment on Greetings by Rich http://redthread.wordpress.com/2006/06/19/greetings/#comment-115 Rich Fri, 07 Jul 2006 03:40:54 +0000 https://redthread.wordpress.com/2006/06/19/greetings/#comment-115 Hi, We are thinking about adopting through CCAI and that is how I found this blog (through Google). I've been comming back twice a week for the last couple of months to see how things are comming along. Hi,
We are thinking about adopting through CCAI and that is how I found this blog (through Google). I’ve been comming back twice a week for the last couple of months to see how things are comming along.

]]> Comment on Taking a Break by Phyllis http://redthread.wordpress.com/2006/06/25/taking-a-break/#comment-69 Phyllis Mon, 26 Jun 2006 18:04:23 +0000 https://redthread.wordpress.com/2006/06/25/taking-a-break/#comment-69 Not so dry a brain---certainly makes sense to me....the idea I think is to make her feel that she was loved throughout and well desired---however that is expressed! Love Not so dry a brain—certainly makes sense to me….the idea I think is to make her feel that she was loved throughout and well desired—however that is expressed!

Love

]]> Comment on Paper Chase, Part 4 by Eric http://redthread.wordpress.com/2006/06/20/paper-chase-part-4/#comment-62 Eric Sun, 25 Jun 2006 21:45:45 +0000 https://redthread.wordpress.com/2006/06/20/paper-chase-part-4/#comment-62 Thanks for the comments. I'm not writing this as things are happening. If you look around some, you'll see what we're actually LID 3/3/06, so right now I'm trying to catch up on ancient history. Sorry for the confusion. Good luck with your WC. That's so exciting. Let me know how things go. Thanks for the comments.

I’m not writing this as things are happening. If you look around some, you’ll see what we’re actually LID 3/3/06, so right now I’m trying to catch up on ancient history. Sorry for the confusion.

Good luck with your WC. That’s so exciting. Let me know how things go.

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